Adorned on the Inside

The Bible says that "Whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing" Prov. 18:22


...It does NOT say "whoso findeth a husband." Also the word "shamefacedness" (I Tim 2:9) means "to be bashful in the presence of the opposite sex."  The godly virgins in the Bible were adorned with a meek and quiet spirit.   "And Rebekah lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Isaac, she lighted off the camel.. and the servant had said, It is my master:  therefore she took a vail and covered herself."  (Gen. 24:64-65)


    In today's society of "broken" homes and absentee fathers, so many young men grow up only having a female role model.  Only having been able to identify and look for a woman's approval instead of their fathers and vice/versa for women...thus it seems the roles have been reversed and I am sometimes very disturbed at the boldness of some young ladies towards men these days.  The Bible is clear that the man is to be the head of the household, and, as the God-ordained leader, he should be the first to show interest.


  "For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is His name." Isaiah 54:5 I have made a covenant with the Lord, until He sees fit to bring me a husband...He IS my husband. I found this scripture and it prompted me, that the best gift I could give to my future husband is to keep my heart and emotions solely for him.   In staying faithful to him & God in every aspect of my life, I will be prepared when he does come along.  I have made this covenant with the Lord, so that He will protect me not only from getting my hopes up and/or seeking a husband on my own, but if God is the one who fully has my heart and devotion, when/if God sees fit to bring such a companion into my life, I will already be spiritually prepared to give my spouse a godly mate to share our lives together.  A mate who will know how to get ahold of God in times of need, one who already has the Word hidden in her heart and one who will not be tossed about like a wave.  Young ladies, if you do not give yourself unreservedly to God, that Godly young man may not recognize you, when he does come!


    I recently read a story of a young man seeking to be married and his pastor told him " Son, you just run for God.  Run for God with all your might and do not worry about who you will marry.  Just keep your eyes on Jesus.  One day you will look next to you and you will find someone running alongside of you.  That will be your wife."   If you are not actively serving in some form of ministry, I HIGHLY encourage you too, put your hand to the plow and get involved.  If you are putting God and ministry FIRST while you are single and keep your heart, God can bring the right one for your ministry, right to you.  Again...."Connecting to God, Connecting to Ministry, Connecting to Others".


    The Bible says, "Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." (Prov. 4:23)  One mistake soo many people make is to get emotionally involved way too soon.   This makes it so hard to hear from God.  You may pray and say "ohh Lord, if this is not your will, show me" then the Lord will allow a separation to come in that relationship and if you are already emotionally involved, YOU will chase after and repair the very thing that YOU ASKED GOD to release you from...crazy, but even I have done this!!!  BE VERY careful to heed the warnings that God tries to give us in this area, I have known so many people that made the wrong decision and their family and ministry suffer leaness, for the rest of their lives!  Do not be Blind or Deaf, to your parents warnings, pastors warnings, friends warnings ....if you do not get a green light in all of these areas, I would immediately put a hold on communications with that relationship and seek God's direction. 


   I once had a young man that I was dating tell me that "No PASTOR was going to tell him, who he could or could not marry" ......."ding,ding, ding"....I immediately heard the warning bells go off in my head and I couldn't help it but the words just popped out of my mouth "I couldn't even imagine, ever marrying someone my pastors DIDNT approve of"....we couldnt even continue the conversation after such a telling revelation, and, I was so grieved in my spirit for him. Unfortunately, we were in a car together and I had to ride with him another 10 min while he tried to cover the uncomfortable silence, with justification for what he had "Meant" to say....I prayed and sought God and immediately began to distance myself from such a relationship. 


    BE VERY VERY careful to listen to those that God has put over your life as spiritual guides.  I have KNOWN SOOO many people that marry someone that seems like a "great person" only later to find out there were hidden sins or awful transgressions in their lives that later, lead to destruction of their marriages and families.  One thing that gets me is, it is always justified with ....it wasnt their fault they ended up in a bad marriage, because well, "I just didnt know, he/she was soo good at hiding things or everyone liked him/her" ....the solution is not to date longer, or get to know them better, sins can be hidden for YEARS...the solution is spending more time with God, asking for Gods direction... God would have told them not to get married, marriage is for a lifetime and once you exchange your marriage vows, that is the RIGHT person for you. 


    The Bible says that the children of Israel "lusted exceedingly in the wilderness, and tempted God in the desert."  The scary part is that God "...gave them their request; but sent leanness into their soul."  Psa (106:14-15)   Be very, very, very <----cannot stress this enough....careful in how you come to God with your request!!!  Ask for HIS will to be done.  Ask for Him to bring you a spouse, if it is His will for your life!  I do not want to be married, only to later find out it was something that, God did not intend for my life and to bring a handicap to what God had intended for my life and/or to lose my salvation entirely.  The Bible says that, "My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me" John 10:27.  God wants you to marry the right person even more than you want it yourself!