Broken Hearts...Wounded spirits

2 Corinthians 5:17 "Therefore if any may be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new."

Luke 4:18 ..."he hath sent me to heal the broken hearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised."

    When we become Christians, God does not expect perfection.  The Bible over and over relates to the fact that we are all in the process of becoming more like "Christ", putting off the old man and old habits.  Thank God, Grace abounds in our hearts and lives!

    However... this normally otherwise, mild-mannered melancholy personality, is quite irritated over one particular behavior that affects "mostly" singles... and that is the dating habits of those fellow christians who live & date without following the Biblical guidelines for dating.

    Have you ever heard the saying "if you are not careful you will go from loving people and using things; to using people and loving things."  This behavior of "USING" others to heal your past wounds and/or broken relationships, just perpetuates the cycle of pain and brokeness.  Each person that you come in contact with, that you injure, in turn injures others.  Like the saying goes ..."hurting people, hurt people".

    Have you ever had someone suddenly show up in your life and sweep you off your feet, only to pull the rug out from under you, by disappearing just as quickly as they came?  What do you do and how do you handle the hurt, when you find out that you were the temporary false-security of an emotionally unstable individual, that used you because they cannot "Be Alone" and/or cannot go without a boyfriend or girlfriend for any length of time?

    How do you recover from the wounds that being used have caused, so you do not turn around and repeat this damaging pattern? This destructive behavior can leave you disillusioned and emotionally fragmented.  If you are NOT blessing someones life, you are cursing it.  Take inventory today of how you are treating others and who you allow in your life.  You can have boundaries, you are valuable enough to say "it is not ok for you to treat me this way" or "I am not ok with how you are making me feel, by this behavior" and put enough value on yourself that you do not allow someone to be in your life, that will bring such damaging emotions upon you. 

     Don't just bounce from relationship to relationship, looking to "heal" yourself.  If you have been wounded, go to the healer of all our broken hearts.  The greek word for "save" is sozo (sodezo), which means to save; to deliver; to protect; to heal; to preserve; to do well; to make or to be made whole.  John 10:10 "The thief cometh not, but for to steal and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly".   

    "Date on Purpose"...this means only date someone you would consider a potential mate!  Like it or not, we all affect others that we come in contact with.  Take inventory of yourself today and determine to be a blessing to those that come into contact with your spirit.  Live to bless others and you will be blessed, when is the last time you intentionally blessed someone through your words, a meaningful touch or by giving to them of your time and your attention.  Learn to truly bless and connect with others and you will attract the right "one" who will bless your life and your future together!